Pamela Jean A New Life Coaching
Saturday, March 16, 2019
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Building a Business Takes Three Things; DISCIPLINE, EFFORT & COURAGE!

When I started my first business I was 21 years old. Looking back, what was I thinking? What was this 21 year old, Mother of a toddler, non-college graduate thinking? I didn’t have the first clue how to run a business let alone how to build one.  What I did have was DISCIPLINE, EFFORT and COURAGE . Sometimes in your life ignorance is bliss, truly. I didn’t know what I didn’t know, therefore proceeding towards reaching my goal was done without an ounce of fear and tons of courage. A blessing in disguise for sure.

One thing I quickly learned was the importance of utilizing each and every second of my work day.  When I began my entrepreneurial journey I was a wife and mother of one, I knew I had to be disciplined and maximize every moment allocated to business and maximize every moment while fulfilling the other roles in my life.  My first business was started out of my home.  This took DISCIPLINE!  I established specific business hours and worked on my business during those hours, my children when to day care from 8:30 AM to 5:00 PM Monday through Friday.  Trust me, it was tempting to throw in a load of laundry and get dinner started early.  But I remained true to myself and had so much respect for my dream that I used those hours to work to make my dreams to come to fruition.

Today I want to roll out to you a very INTENTIONAL (my word of the year if you remember from a previous blog) daily, weekly and monthly schedule that is focused on your specific goals.  What are the things that you have to do everyday to build and manage your business?  Take time to Analyze and Review everything that fills your schedule, it takes Discipline and Effort to create an efficient and effective system.  Check out a couple of examples below, I have focused on Daily Emails and Social Media.  Enjoy!



Daily Task:  Check Email - Analyze and Review


  • What does your inbox look like?

  • Do you receive too many emails that are unimportant to your business?  If that is the case you need to take some time to unsubscribe to junk emails that are stealing your time that you need to focus on your business.

  • Do you spend too much time on your emails?  Track how much time you spend on emails everyday and see where you can cut the time down.

  • Is the time you are spending necessary in moving your business forward?  If you find yourself getting sucked down a rabbit hole while taking care of emails you must adjust.

  • Do you need to learn how to do that yourself or will you delegate that to support staff?

  • Can you create templates for the same emails you typically send?  If you find you are repeating the same email response over and over create a template to streamline.

  • How can you limit your time spent checking your emails?  Schedule yourself time daily to focus on emails. Force yourself to be disciples and efficient.

  • Do you need to delete the app on your phone?  If having 24/7 access to email is hindering your efficiency, consider deleting the app on your phone and only respond while in your office.

  • Do you want to hit “Inbox 0” every single day?  How about at the end of every single week?

  • When will you intentionally have no messages in your inbox?  Set hard deadlines for yourself make it happen!

  • How can you organize your client communication better?  Establishing a Communication System for your email business is VERY important.

  • Do you need to set better ground rules?  

  • What times specifically will you be answering their emails?  Allocate time everyday to respond and take care of email correspondence.  Same time, everyday, twice a day if your business model requires.

  • Can you keep it consistent so that they know when to expect you?  Your clients need to be able to depend on you.  Establishing a Communication System will give your client the comfort and confidence to know that you will get them taken are of.


Daily Task:  Social Media - Analyze and Review


  • What social media platforms do you need to write content for? Make a list of all of the social media platforms you have a presence.

  • Are being on all of these places helping your business or taking up your time?  Take stock of how much time you are spending on each platform.  Analyze how you are using your time while on a platform.

  • Which social media platforms seem to actually be working?  Base this on target client response and how well you are building your community of followers.

  • Which social media platforms aren’t working at all?  If a platform is essentially taking a nap on your business, you may need to eliminate this platform.

  • Are your ideal clients consistently showing up there?  Once you establish “who” is showing up on your social media, make sure you are reaching your ideal client and those people that fit your client avatar/profile.

  • How can you create a way for your social media platforms to grow?  Create a strategic outline for you social media marketing ensuring that you are maximizing your time and getting the proper return on your time investment.

  • What will you need to do?  Create a task list of what and how you are going to maximize your investment into social media marketing.

  • Are you being strategic about where you’re posting content?  You MUST have a strategic plan in posting to social media and growing your social community and fan base.  Make sure you know “why” you are doing everything within your posting. If you don’t know “why” then either figure that out of drop a particular posting type.

  • Is your content bringing people to a specific place so you can serve them?  Filtering content onto your social media platforms that do not connect you to your client and give you the opportunity to serve them is a waste of time.  Make sure you are reaching your potential clients and have the chance to serve them.

  • Where are the places that you are visible to your target client?  If you have defined your client avatar/profile properly you will know the answer to this question.  You don’t want to cast a big net and hope to catch a few good fish, you want to cast a small net onto you target client and reap the rewards of a good catch.

  • Where do you need to improve?  Once you have analyzed all of your social media platforms, create a strategic task list and be very specific and intentional as to improving your overall social media presence.


I have given you two examples (Email and Social Media) of how to make your daily schedule within your business to be more specific and efficient.  ANALYZE and REVIEW every daily task you have and create a plan. Once you have all tasks working properly, then work on planning out your weeks and months.  This will put you ahead of the 8-ball not behind and ultimately avoid being overwhelmed with everything you have to do.


Being prepared and organized and move forward with COURAGE that will lead to reaching your goals and seeing your dreams come true!  Moving forward with Courage and overcoming your fear is key to your future success!  Click on the link below for a free download of A NEW LIFE Daily Task forms to help you get started!







Tuesday, February 26, 2019
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Were you one of the 26.5 million people who watched the Oscars this year?  I will admit, award shows bore me for the most part, but I did watch the show this year.  Truth be told, if the OKC Thunder were playing, the Oscar’s would not have won out, lucky for the Oscar’s.


If you did watch, then you will know exactly the moment I am going to share with you, when Lady Gaga won the Oscar for Best Song titled Shallow  Oscar Performance a duet Gaga sung with Bradley Cooper in the movie “A Star is Born”.  (A great movie by the way if you haven’t seen it yet!)  Her speech still resonates with me as I write this blog for you today;

“It’s not about winning.  But what it’s about not giving up.  If you have a dream, fight for it.  There’s a discipline for passion and it’s not about how many times you get rejected or you fall down or you’re beaten up.  It’s about how many times you stand up and are brave, and you keep on going.”

~Lady Gaga.


Do you remember Lady Gaga’s meat dress days?  (If you don’t google it) She was made fun of, ridiculed you name it.  Her “stunt” as some deemed it was outrageous and frowned upon.  Do you think if she listened to her critics back then she would have been shining on the stage at the Oscar’s?  Do you think if Lady Gaga listened to any and all of her critics over the years she would be experiencing the success she is today?  She is like a race horse, she puts on her blinders and runs her OWN race. 


Which leads me to you and YOUR DREAMS.  Have you forgotten how to dream?  Has life consumed you so much that your dreams do not exist?  How are you doing with seeing your dreams come to fruition? Who are you listening too?  Do you have critics in your life that are deterring you from reaching your goals and dreams?  Are YOU the one preventing yourself from reaching your best life?



Let’s talk about this in depth.  If you are the person who has lost track of their dreams or you have stopped dreaming altogether, then start today to find them!  Don’t delay!  What are you waiting for?  I have been there and understand how this happens, this is such a real thing.  While busy raising my children and working in my business, I forgot how to dream.  In the trenches of Motherhood and trying to please others, I didn’t allow myself to dream.  Mother’s reading this, DON’T MAKE THIS MISTAKE!  Your life, your heart and your dreams are important.  They are valuable and valid.  Your children need to see you fighting for your dreams too!  Don’t wait until you are an empty nester one day and look in the mirror, and the person you have become is not who you thought you were.  Your identity is not your children’s or your spouse or anyone else’s.  Your identity is YOUR’s.  You own it!!  The women you were before you became a Mother is still in your soul! Let her out to dream!


So is life getting in your way as you try to reach your goals and dreams?  Are you in a place where your busy life is getting in your way?  Just can’t get traction because daily life is getting in your way?  It’s time to stop making excuses, it is time to be proactive!  What if you spent one hour a day on your dream? One hour, 60 minutes….what can you give up to allow yourself to work on your dream for one hour a day?  Anything that is important enough, is worth 60 minutes a day.  And what if next month you invest two hours a day on your dream?  And the following month three hours a day?  It will grow people it will grow!! I promise you it will!  But you HAVE to make it a priority and keep it in the forefront of your very being!


Is there a Who getting in your way to reaching your dream?  Do you have people in your life that quash your dreams at every corner?  I have two thoughts here, first of all, if you have people in your life holding you back, then perhaps these people need to be eliminated from your inner circle.  We all have a friend, or someone that you think is a friend that out of their own fear and insecurity does not want to see you succeed.  I am not recommending that you break off all of your friendships, but take some time to evaluate WHO is in your inner circle and decide whether or not the really need to be there.  Now I do realize that not everyone in your inner circle can be eliminated that easily.  But the second thing for you to wrap your head around is that there isn’t anyone in this world that will want your dream to come true more than you.  Even the people that love and support you the most, spouses, parents, children, still will not be half as passionate about your dream as you are.


Are YOU the problem?  Are YOU getting in your way?  Are YOU making excuses?  I can’t work on my dreams because I don’t have the time.  I can’t work on my dream because my family won’t let me.  I can’t work on my dream because… can fill in the blank.  If this is the conversation going on in your mind, then I am here to break it to you, YOU are the problem.  News flash, we all have 24 hours in one day, it is what you choose to allow in your 24 hours that makes the difference.  Is it more important to you to watch the episode of The Bachelor or work on your dream?  Is it more important to get sucked into social media for two hours or work on your dream?  Your family does not control whether or not you work on your dream that too is a choice.  We make choices every day that will move us closer to our dream or that won’t move us closer to our dreams.  It is that simple and that cut and dried.


I am a huge believer in chasing your wildest dream.  Sometimes dreams are accomplished in a short amount of time and more often than not you can spend a lifetime working on your dream.  But keep moving forward, don’t stand still.  The worst thing than not reaching your dream is quitting when it gets hard.  You will never regret working hard towards your dream.  You will regret giving up on a great dream.

Are you stuck in a place where your dreams are drifting farther away from your reality?  Click on the LET'S CHAT button!  I would love to visit with you about your dream and help you create a road map to get where you want to go.  I will be honest with you and keep you accountable and help you create A New Life for you!

Wednesday, February 20, 2019
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The title of this week’s blog makes me giggle.  I have recently returned from spending 10 days with my three year old Grandson and four month old Granddaughter.  If you happen to be a Grandparent, you know how my heart has exploded with love for these two incredible little humans and also the void that is left behind after leaving them 800 plus miles away.  They bring a spirit to life that has been forgotten from when my children were that age.  Perhaps that is because when you are in the trenches of motherhood you don’t see the determination of a three year old as fascinating, lol frustrating might be more accurate.  What I learned from my Grandson was that in his mind “NO” really doesn’t mean “NO” at all.  In fact it was mind blowing how many ways a three year old can ask for Valentine’s Day candy all within 10 minutes!  Incredible how quickly his mind was working on the next verbal snare to trap me in to give in to his request.  The word “NO” meant absolutely nothing to him.  Why?  Why didn’t he care how many times he heard the answer?  Why didn’t “NO” deter him on his relentless quest?


This has really gotten me thinking.  When did the word no, become something many adults deeply fear in business and in life?  When did the word no get tied to rejection?  How does this two letter, tiny word have so much power and impact on our daily lives?


Somewhere on our journey to adulthood, we are conditioned to fear no, and in business and life this can be debilitating and definitely keep us from advancing forward.   If you can dive into why you have the fear of rejection, you will learn how to handle “No’s” in a more positive light.   Most often, the fear of rejection (or fear in general) stems from a childhood condition and experiences.  When we were children things happened TO us to put us in a state of fear and we carry those emotions and mindset into our adult life.


How can we get past the fear of “NO” in our daily lives and mostly past what is holding us back from living our best life?  Let’s learn to love that feisty little word NO!

Don’t worry about a potential client turning you down and telling you no.  Think of it as “no” right now, not a forever “no”.  You don’t know their circumstances! Perhaps they just found out about an unexpected expense, or they had a fight with their spouse, or the children are being jerks, or they are having insecurities about themselves.  DO NOT make a “NO” about you!  It’s not personal!  A potential client did not tell you no because of you, the "NO" is because of them and something happening in their life at a given moment.  You should really thank the person for telling you no, it is an incredible learning opportunity!


Here are a few points to ask yourself these questions;

How can you pitch your product differently?

Did you explain your product properly?

Did that client truly fit my client and product profile?

Have I created enough desire for my product?


When it comes to your reaching your goals "no" is not an answer.  The word "no" doesn’t mean you stop progressing forward. NO means you change your course, take a left turn where you once thought you were going straight.  No is not a stop sign, think of it as a yield sign.  A place where you slow down take a look at where you have come from and make an adjustment to get where you are going.  No gives you the opportunity to take stock and change the course properly to reach your goals.  Maybe it’s time you Take NO Like a Three Year Old.

So if you find yourself in a place where you fear the word no and want to visit about how paralyzing this is for you, click the LET's CHAT link below and I will contact you to set up a time to visit.  I look forward to serving you!

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Tuesday, February 12, 2019
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I know you are tired of hearing about 2019 goals, it’s the middle of February for crying out loud.  Don’t we have this down already?  Honestly most people do not.  Most people have really good intentions of creating a new list of goals for a new year, but once April hits, they can barely remember what they even wrote down.  The importance of goals and reaching them has a direct hand in how richly fulfilled your life will be.  If you want a life of mediocrity, the keep doing nothing or keep doing what you are doing.  But if you want to life an EXTRAORDINARY life, you have to be willing to EXTRAORDINARY things to get there.


Every goal you have written down has a bigger power a bigger reason if you will.  There is more to each and every goal than meets the eye, it is very important to dig deep into your heart and mind to define the “goal BEHIND your goal”.


Let’s say number one on your list is I want to be debt free in 2019.  That is a great goal and one everyone should be striving for.  But the bigger question that we are going to delve into is WHY.  WHY do you want to be debt free?   The answer seems simple and obvious I know, but let’s take an in depth look at a few answers to the WHY.


“By living debt free I will have a freedom to do things I could never do while owing money.”

“The stress level in my life regarding money would be eliminated.  I would not have the daily concern and worry over the next bill that is due, ultimately a better quality of life”

“I would love to give $10,000 (BE SPECIFIC) to my favorite charity and take my family on a special trip each year.”

“I will be more relaxed, experience less anxiety and overall will be a happier more content person.”

“My relationship with my family and friends will thrive.  I will be able to be 100% present when spending time with the people I love most with less stress taking over my mind.”


Here is another example:

I want my business to grow in 2019.  That is a great goal, and most business owners desire yearly growth, but WHY?  Why do you want your business to grow?  What is the purpose for the growth?  If the purpose for growth is simply for the money then you are missing the big picture. 

“I want my business to grow, so I can retire by the time I am 60.” 

“I want my business to grow so I can take my family on a trip to Europe.”

“I want my business to grow so I can create jobs for 100 more people.”

“I want my business to grow so I can increase my donation to my charity of choice.”

“I want my business to grow so I can leave a financial legacy to my children and grandchildren.”


I hope you understand the importance of nailing down the “goal BEHIND your goal”.  A deep seeded purpose and process is imperative for living an EXTRAORDINARY life.  Defining the deeper meaning of your goals will make them more clear and specific.  If you would like my GOAL PYRAMID form emailed to you, click on the BUTTON below and I will get one sent out to you.

Here is how it works; Write your goal at the very top of the document, start at the bottom of the pyramid and begin with step one of how you are going to reach this particular goal.  As you create your journey to your goal, keep adding filling in the steps.  This is a great visual, will keep you accountable and help your see a clear path to reaching your goal.

Shoot me an email if you would like to have a deeper conversation regarding defining your goals real purpose.  I would love to help you create "A New Life".  Click on the BUTTON below to send a direct email to me.  I look forward to serving you!

Monday, February 04, 2019
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Well here we are, one month of 2019 is in the books.

How is it that one month has gone by already?

Time flies when you are having fun!  But were you really having fun?


I think it is safe to say, that most people are gun-ho at the thought of a new year.  It’s our chance to leave behind the issue of the past year.  Bury a few bad experiences, perhaps recovering from a big loss in our life, we are ready to wash away all of the grit of the previous year.  Then we get busy planning out all the things we are going to accomplish in the coming year.  Losing weight, eating healthier, getting out of debt are just a few things that come with planning out our new year.


Then February hits, and you are nowhere near beginning any of the goals you have set for yourself a mere 31 days ago, let alone a possibility of reaching a goal.  All you can think of is how busy you were last month recovering from Christmas, reorganizing your household, getting the kids back to school, then the bills start coming in from all of the money you should not have spent on Christmas.  And then financial stress hits, then the “clean eating” plan goes out the window with the bowl of ice cream that comes your way, then you start to become the grumpy wife and mother you promised yourself you would not become.  The downward spiral begins, the vicious cycle of life takes over.  You have been sucked back into your old ways, that comfortable/uncomfortable place that will keep you captive for yet another year.  Ugh.


Let’s have a conversation today about setting goals and how to reach them.  First of all, you have to be VERY specific about your goals and they must be MEASURABLE.  For instance, to say, "I want to lose weight this year", we both know it will never happen.  Plant this in your mind, I want to lose 20 pounds by August 31, be specific.  That is 2.5 pounds a month (if you begin in January) and is 0.625 pounds a week.  When you break it down, the 20 pounds has now become slightly over ½ of a pound a week.  This will make the goal less intimidating and more achievable.


We are not stopping there, the next step is to make an ACTION PLAN for the goal of losing 20 pounds by August 31.  HOW are you going to lose the weight?  No excuses!  It is easy to get in a funk and say something like this, “I don’t have enough time to work out, I am too busy”, well that is simply bull, I don’t’ buy it.  We all have 24 hours in a day, and have the opportunity to fill those 24 hours with what is important to us.  If it is important enough, you WILL find a way.  If you have time to peruse social media, you have time to exercise.  If you have time to watch Netflix for two hours in the evening, you have time to work out.  If you have time to play games on your phone or device, you have time to work out.  My point is, if your goal is big enough in your mind, you will find a way to make it happen.  If you want something badly enough, it WILL happen.  Set your mind to succeed.  Make a choice of water instead of soda, fruit instead of a candy bar, take the stairs when you can instead of the elevator, this list can go on and on.  By making simple choices you will begin to lose weight.

You MUST write your goals down and look at them every single day.  If you don’t write it down it will never happen, out of sight, out of mind.  This can be done by creating a vision board.  Find a picture of the swimsuit you want to wear this summer, stick it on the board.  Dreaming of a new car?  Find a picture add it to your board, this can apply to a home, a vacation, a new job, you get the idea.  This is the part of goal setting that begins the manifesting process, your dreams and goals are then set into motion.


Here is a VERY important element about goals.  Your goals have to be YOUR goals.  “My spouse wants me to lose weight.  My Mother wants me to become a nurse”.  If a goal is not YOUR goal it will never be reached.  Setting a goal for the sake of another person is dysfunctional and will not end well.  You will never be at peace and strive for a goal that is set for someone other than yourself.


And lastly, you should set goals for all areas in your life; financial, spiritual, career, family, social, physical, intellectual, debt and retirement are some suggestions.  By setting goals in all areas of your life, YOU will become a more whole and happy person, which will lead you down a path of finding your best self and ultimately, you will become what you have been created for.  You will find your purpose, you will be a better wife, mother, friend, employee and servant to other people.


Next weeks edition, will dig even deeper into manifesting your goals and making them become your reality.  I will go over a Goal Pyramid worksheet and provide a link for you to download it for free.  In the mean time, make it a GREAT week!


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