Pamela Jean A New Life Coaching
Friday, February 01, 2019
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Well we are almost one month into the New Year and I have just now figured out my “Word of the Year”.  A girlfriend of mine asked me what my word of the year was and it has taken me nearly a month to figure it out!  Thank you Christie Michelle for the challenge, and of course I had to make it difficult for myself, lol!  According to the Second Edition of the 20 volume Oxford English Dictionary, there are 171,476 words in the English Language.  So why was this so difficult for me?  Pick a word already!

I didn’t want to willy-nilly choose a word, I wanted my word for the year to have deep meaning, I wanted my word to be my guide to success and thought.  I wanted MY word to follow me through this entire year, it’s a big deal.

Drum roll please…

After much thought and contemplation, my word of the year is INTENTIONAL.  According to Merriam-Webster, intentional is an adjective, and the definition of intentional is done by intention or design: INTENDED.

What does this mean to me and perhaps you too?

In every aspect of my life I want to live and makes choices intentionally, with proper thought behind everything in my life.  I think often times we get caught up in our "to-do" list and go through the motions, we forget that every second of our day is a gift and opportunity and should be treated as such.  This is a challenge to use every second to be the best at whatever you do.

In my business and professional life, I want every decision to have intention and purpose.  For instance, before I book a conference or attend to further my education, I first want to make sure I know what my business needs are.  It is important to make sure that the conference will meet the current needs of my business, instead of attending the same conference year after year because it’s what I have always done.  Also I want to have a list of goals, to make sure I am staying on task at the conference, and maximizing my dollars invested and time for attending.

When I go to a Coaching Meeting, I pray and meditate before we begin and ask for ears to listen and the wisdom, guidance and the right words my clients need to hear.  My best gift I can give a client is to show up 100% every time and be intentional about what I am sharing with them.  I am my clients Coach not their cheerleader.  It is my goal to witness and encourage their business and personal growth, to help them overcome fear and realize a level of success that is beyond their wildest imagination.

On the personal side of my life, I want to invest my time in the people and causes that develop me to become the best version of myself while by example encouraging them to do the same.  For example, when I am out to dinner with my family or friends, I intentionally unplug and leave my phone tucked in my purse.  I want to show up 100% for them, they deserve my full attention and seek out ways that I can be there for those special people in my life.  Everyone needs to feel valued and loved, a simple gesture of time and undivided attention can provide that.

At the end of the day, I don't make a decision because "everyone else does it this way", I want to make decisions that are planned, thought out, strategic and specific.  With the ultimate goal of becoming the best version of myself, the version God INTENDED for me to be.


Friday, March 02, 2018
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11 Mantra’s Every Newly Divorced Woman Should Be Living


1) Practice Self Love;

Happiness is an inside job, YOU have to love yourself, before anyone else can. You are beautiful, courageous and perfectly created. It’s okay to show yourself Grace and Love!

2) Stop Caring About The Ones Who Do Not Deserve Your Energy;

Why do the negative people in our life have the loudest voice in our minds? It’s easy to give power to the ones who have hurt you the most. It is your choice as to who and what hurts you. The sooner you take away the power, the sooner you will heal.

3) Connect With Your Single Girlfriends;

Surround yourself with your girlfriends, what better way to refresh and recharge then the support and love of your friends! Schedule at least two nights a month to connect with your girlfriends!

4) Stop Feeling Guilt & Shame;

Starting your live over after divorced is not for the faint of heart. Don’t let the feeling of failure, guilt and shame plague you, move forward, always move forward. You can’t change the past, only learn from it. Pick yourself up, dust yourself o , take a look in the mirror, and give yourself a smile. Don’t beat yourself up.

5) Dream Again;

You have lost your dreams while ful lling everyone else’s. You have spent years making everyone else happy, you have forgotten about you. Take a deep breath and let your dreams come to the surface again. 

6) Enjoy Being Single;

Being single can be scary and uncertain. When you learn to be comfortable in your own skin, in your single situation, the stronger you will become.

7) Learn To Forgive;

Forgiving the people in your life that have caused you heartache, is just as important as for- giving yourself. Forgiveness is a powerful step in healing your heart.

8) Codependent NO MORE!

When we attempt to control people and things that we have no business controlling, we are controlled. You didn’t cause it; you can’t control it; you can’t cure it. Let go of the things that you cannot change.

9) Journal Your Journey;

Schedule time everyday to write your inner most thoughts in a pretty journal. Document your journey and a year from now, you will be able to read how far your have come! Oh the di erence a year makes!

10) Do More Things You Love;

For years you have put everyone before you. You have been the sacri cial lamb for others, it’s time you do something for you! Do something that you have always wanted to do!

11) Find Your Inner Peace;

Learn to live in peace with yourself. You cannot control everything, but you can control how you feel about yourself and the inner peace you live with.